Welcome to Better Through Books!
Better Through Books is a series on my blog where I share my favorite books about relationships, marriage, communication, and dare I say – sex. These are books that I recommend to my Pre-Marital or Marriage Therapy clients in my Psychotherapy Private Practice, Relationships For Better.
I value honesty, so I must admit: I think that even the best books on marriage sometimes over-simplify relationship dynamics in the name of ‘Self-Help’. I tend to shy away from books that claim
- 7 Easy Steps to a Happier Marriage! or
- 10 Secrets to Making Marriage Last!
Today’s book, The 5 Love Languages by Dr. Gary Chapman might seem overly simple to some people. However, I stand by this book’s core concept full-heartedly:
Everyone needs love, and there are is a diversity of ways to give and receive love.
The five Love Languages (ways to give and receive love) that Dr. Chapman identifies are
- Words of Affirmation
- Quality Time
- Receiving Gifts
- Acts of Service, and
- Physical Touch
Its crucial in a relationship to know your partner’s Love Language. Here’s why:
I know one couple who were hurt because they felt they loved their spouse more than their spouse loved them. The wife would tell her husband how much she cared for him, and he wouldn’t always respond. Meanwhile, the husband worked hard for his family, and his wife was upset that he didn’t spend enough time with her. The truth is that her Love Languages were Quality Time and Words of Affirmation, and his love languages was Acts of Service. Once they understood how their partner experienced love, they could better give and receive that kind of love in their marriage.
So, do you want to know your Love Language?
After you and your partner have taken the Love Language quiz at the link above, sit down with a cup of coffee and talk about what you learned about yourselves and each other.
Then, tell me about your Love Language! I can’t wait to hear all about it.
P.S. You can find my other relationship book recommendations in the Better Through Books series here.
P.P.S. Do you feel that you and your partner could benefit from Relationship Counseling or Marriage Therapy? You don’t have to wait – it is always a good time for a relationship tuneup! If you live in Monrovia, Arcadia, Covina, Altadena, Pasadena, or other nearby cities, book your first session by clicking on the link below! I look forward to connecting with you soon.